Tuesday, 12 January 2016

Tuesday Things ( with an edited in sentence at the end!)

Do you know that December, when the rest of the country was flooded, was our driest month here since June - weird. Col added up the rainfall measurements that he had written in his diary and told me I ought to share this with everyone.

Yesterday we  took a bag of glass to the bottle bank and I thought "Thank goodness we'll never have to fill the car with bags and bags (and even more bags) of empty booze bottles from the campsite." It never failed to amaze me just how much people holidaying on our site could drink. I would be worried about driving with some of the folks who've been here! and it was so embarrassing to be putting so many bottles in the bins. Not that anyone took any notice - it was just me who was embarrassed!

On my post of December 31st I mentioned that I was in a "fed up with blogging mood" because everyday there would be comments that seemed to be questioning what I did or making me feel I had  to justify what I had written. Now the same thing has happened to Sue at Our New Life in the country. The person or people who do this don't have a blog of their own but make little digs or perhaps I'll give them benefit of the doubt and say they don't realise what they are doing.  For example - I said we now had an artificial Christmas tree, several reasons for this described in this old post. But Goodness Me - How wrong this is! Surely only a real live tree will do! Never an artificial in THEIR house! So not a nasty comment and definitely not a troll. It's just when this happens on almost every post it gets a bit tedious.
Sue is starting out on the smallholding and self-sufficiency "journey" and we are at the end. I wasn't able to blog about our smallholding adventures because blogging didn't exist 23 years ago so didn't get the on-line "helpful" comments, instead we got them in person when ever we showed someone who didn't know us around the holding.
All the "Why don't you do..............." and then a list of ideas we could/should gave done. There would always be a reason why we hadn't. Mainly lack of time and cash! I stopped outside paid work in 1980 and Colin's job working for the County Council was always average wage. he worked full time right up until 2012. We had 3 children too - children aren't cheap.
Some of the suggestions that we were never able to do were 
  • Cover our  roof with solar panels (  we couldn't afford to and wouldn't have got our money back)
  • Start a produce box delivery service ( Never been THAT keen on growing and we did try this on a small scale with 2 of Col's work colleagues and it was fine until things didn't grow or there would be a week when there wasn't quite enough of one thing and selling at the gate worked much better anyway).
  • Keep and breed pigs/cows/sheep on a big organic rare breed kind-of way. (We only wanted to keep enough for us).
  • Expand the campsite to cover the whole field ( Not THAT keen on people!) 
  • Apply for permission for caravan storage - that was often suggested - but it was expensive to set up and we didn't want to have more caravans here.
And many other ideas I've long forgotten.

What I'm saying is do comment, comments are lovely,they  make people feel like friends but don't think you know better than the person writing the blog. And if you really do know better then start a blog of your own!

And on that note I shall say thank you to friends who commented yesterday and good luck to Phil's daughter who wants to be an archaeologist - we always say its more of a calling than a job - and our son has been lucky to have had archaeology jobs for 10 years but  knows that he may not always be so lucky, especially if you are not single and able to travel to another part of this country or abroad.

Back Tomorrow
Sue

PS I 'only' got 64 comments after my December 31st post and Sue in Wales got 160 after her yesterday post.
 Oh that's soooooo unfair I shall cry and stamp my feet!!
(Edited to say that is meant to be ironic and I forgot that other parts of the country/world don't do Suffolk Irony :-)

45 comments:

  1. Number of comments possibly something to do with timing? - NYE and NYD being when some people are busier/ hungover, perhaps and don't catch up for a couple of days and don't like to comment on older posts? (I've no idea in reality, just putting a wild suggestion out there!) :)

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    1. Yes I agree with you Mrs G.
      I am in Dallas TX and am always hours behind in reading because of the time difference.
      Sometimes I do not like to comment on an old post, but I always thoroughly enjoy reading every one also the comments.
      I love the blogs I read, it really lifts my day and gives me inspiration. It is like having a cuppa and chatting to friend.
      I think bloggers do a great job.
      Well done all!
      Pam in TX.xx

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    2. Apologies, that last sentence of mine was meant to be a joke! I'm not really crying or stamping feet! For a start Sue in Wales has been blogging for years and has several hundred followers. I've now edited this to explain Suffolk Irony which I know other people just don't understand!

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    3. I didn't take it as a serious tantrum! - I just thought that there *could* be some reasoning behind it :)

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    4. Oh thank goodness you didn't take me seriously, I do worry sometimes because I often say things like this in a tongue in cheek way and some people think I'm being dead serious.

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  2. Before we moved, glass was collected in its own box for recycling from the doorstep, here it isn't there is a bottle bank in the village I always forget to take the bottles Martin ends up taking them back with him to the recycling place, I wonder if your re-cycling will be different when you move it seems to vary so much from place to place,
    We keep having talks about solar panels but undecided its a lot of money to invest and we would still have to rely on the grid perhaps one day we will do some number crunching

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    1. Our house is not quite the right angle for putting them on the roof so it would have to have gone on the shed which would be complicated and thank goodness we didn't as we are having to move 8 years earlier than planned!

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  3. We all live how we want to live. I have never conformed. It is mine and my family's way we want to live, you don't have to like it! Would be my answer to anyone who say you should do it like this or should do it like that.

    We have an artificial christmas tree, we have had it for about thirty odd years, not the same one it has been replaced twice. This year we just put the thirty year angel on the top and we had just lights on it and it looked very pretty in our eyes!
    Julie xxxxxx

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    1. I like being odd! and since I started reading blogs I've found I'm not as odd as I thought I was!

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    2. I realised I'm not odd either, and I understand Suffolk irony, as half my roots are from there! Needham Market to be exact!
      Julie xxxxx

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  4. I was brought up with the mantra 'if you haven't got anything nice to say, say nowt!" Blogging about our lives is what we who blog, like to do, as an on-line diary to look back on. If folk don't like it, blow them!

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    1. There is just the odd person who seems to like commenting in a harsh sort-of way. OK once or twice but when it's after almost every post it's a bit tedious and discouraging

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    2. if it's the 'odd person'
      delete their comments?
      Perhaps the independent smallholding life attracts envious - if it were mine, I would ... ramblings

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  5. Well then a comment just for the sake of it as I didn't post on Sue's 😉

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  6. There are always times in life when you or others look back and say "why didn't you?" or "Why did you?". We feel there was always a good reason behind our decisions at the time and they suited us. Agree with all your site decisions quoted, we had a field once and had the same ideas and responses. We did what we did for good of us and family - if you (the critic) don't like it - go and do better yourselves. Nice to hear you are looking forward to changes!

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  7. There is always someone to say "shoulda, coulda, woulda!" I say "really!". xx

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  8. As a matter of interest regarding rainfall Sue. We had ten inches in December and have had five inches so far this month up to today (we measure it daily and although not a totally accurate record it does give us some idea). And we have been nowhere near as badly affected as many places like the Lakes, York, Carlisle and others. But even so we cannot walk on our fields, they are too myddy.

    Agree with the other things you say about what you have and have not done on your smallholding. I know that when we visited you last year we were most impressed with your energy and the way you kept everything. In your sort of life you have to plough your own furrow - disregard what anyone else has to say - they are not in the driving seat.
    All the best.

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  9. Your list of suggestions made to you made me laugh.. I could have written that myself! The suggestions were usually from people who didn't have time/ patience/ and "ooh I do so admire what you do, but I couldn't possibly"
    I must say though that I would love to be able to afford solar panels
    What I do like having though, is genuine questions or ideas from people. I'm always learning and as my granddaughter says "every day's a school day"
    Gillx

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  10. I hold my hands up to an artificial tree. The price of real trees is enough to make your eyes water.

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  11. The internet is full of opinions and "helpful" people. Take comfort in the fact that everyone on your blog is here because they find you have interesting and helpful things to say, and you are an inspiration to others like ourselves who are only just starting on their adventure. All the best for 2016 - Fast-SoS

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  12. When you think about it, it seems utterly ridiculous to spend £50+ on a dead tree, which you decorate and plonk in the corner of your living room for three weeks, then throw away again!!
    One of the good things about blogging is the breath and wealth of experience and knowledge out there. Shame not everyone can see that :(

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  13. Our blogs are our diaries, we each have our own lifestyle, and live to the level we want, It is a shame a few who inflict their ethics onto others, I follow Sue as well and read her post. We all see things and think I would have done it differently, but never would I choose to comment. As for your Christmas Tree, we have an artificial tree, would never have a real one inside, but that's our choice, some people should think before they comment.

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  14. Some years ago I had a little shop in a village. I also had animals (goats, sheep, chickens, ducks, geese, rabbits + dogs and cats) so I was quite busy. I also got lots of helpful suggestions about how I could do things better. The usually started with "If I were you"!then how they could do things better. I got so fed up with it is used to retaliate with "But you are not so I don't want to hear".

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    1. Hello, how good to hear from another Penny Pincher Paper Reader. Oh dear, don't like the sound of house purchase falling through, what a horrible thing to happen . I hope you are able to find something just as good. My 'what ifs' are really to do with Cols health and treatment. The people buying this are keen so I don't think they will pull out..... but I guess we shouldn't bank on anything until it's signed and sealed

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  16. OH stop your tantrum woman, I can hear the gnashing of teeth from here ..... all you have to do next time is put the words 'rat's arse' in your title it seems to bring in a lot of attention ;-)

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    1. Ah Ha... I see.... you've taken a leaf out of a certain Mr John Greys book!

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  17. I wonder if the people that give you this "well meaning advice" would welcome that from others - I think probably not! There are always people around who think they can do better than you without considering that everyone is different and we don't all want the same from life. xx

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  18. It's not just blogland though is it? It's just human nature I think. I didn't have a blog 16 years ago when we decided to sell up - I mean EVERYTHING - build a narrowboat to live on and cruise the inland waterways. I wish I had a pound for every horrified friend, relation, acquaintance, STRANGER (!) who said 'Oh NO! I couldn't do THAT!' Well no, luckily, I'm not asking you to am I? (imagine me rolling my eyes at this point). We had it all over again, 5 years later when we decided to move to a remote Scottish island 'oh NO! I couldn't live THERE! Like THAT!' Again - I'm not asking you to - birdbrain!
    I've come to the conclusion that unimaginative folk, like you to *do* exactly what they *do*, because it reinforces *their* choices. There is no grey for them - everything is black or white, right or wrong. It's not a bloggy thing, it's a human thing. Of course, blogging does mean that you *engage* with A LOT more humans than you would normally....

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    1. Dear Wanda, your life sounded so great I clicked to see if you had a blog. Sadly not but I see you have good taste and follow John at Going Gently too. I would loved to have read about you narrow boat and remote island living. X

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  19. Is there a blog way of blowing a raspberry at idiotic '(un)helpful' comments? As someone (apologies - can't remember who)said above I am in the camp of 'if you can't say anything nice, say nothing'. I really don't understand why some people make such an effort to be not nice. x

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  20. I've never had more than 16! So you are doing very well

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  21. Well after reading through your post and all your trillion comments I say keep at it! You are clearly doing something right!

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  22. May be I should be glad and not sad that no one seems to read my blog and leave comments LOL.

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  23. Some people have such a jaundiced view of life, that they are incapable of saying anything pleasant. I think we should pity them; unless of course they become over-powering.

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  24. You know, you have a lovely blog, i enjoy and learn from your posts, and like Sue it is your blog, write and share as you please. Blogs are gifts given and shared, and there is always the option of reading someone else who has shared so, scroll on if it does not appeal to you.

    And one thing taught from childhood, should be carried over to our entire lives. "If you can't say something nice, say nothing", and be kind. There is enough tension in the world without negating the time and effort that blog owners take to put together a post.

    Keep posting, I may never get to your side of the ocean, but I enjoy what you and the other dear writers share. I respect you very much.

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  25. Im sorry to hear you have been getting negative comments to its very draining my advice just take no notice if you can. There will always be people in this life who think they know better or believe they are better than yourself also the green eyed monster as your living the life they can only dream about. At the end of the day this is your life and your lovely blog you run it and write anyway you chose after all every day we are learning and teaching ourselves and isn't that what life is about really....dee x

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  26. Sue, if I have a blog, which I haven't, I'd be delighted with 'only' 64 comments and daunted by 160! Love your Suffolk irony, though! I often make comments, tongue in cheek, and then think, "but suppose the reader doesn't know I'm joking?"
    Negative comments should always be tempered with something positive, I think. And yes, I'd have been embarrassed with dumping all those wine bottles in the bottle bank, too, even though I'd not swigged their contents. Indeed, we seldom drink, we're actually not keen on the taste, simple as that. We like the occasional G&T but mainly in summer, an ice cold G&T on a summer's evening is lovely, but we only want one occasionally and then seldom again for months on end and I find the gin bottle hogging a shelf in the fridge from one year to the next. Seriously!
    As for solar panels, I think few of them are being installed now. Neighbours have them on their house facing our back garden and quite frankly, they're hideous (the solar panels, not the neighbours - must make that clear!) One day, and it might already be here, if they have roof tiles that can absorb the heat and transform it into power, I might change the roof tiles but they'd have to look like the original ones. I don't want dirt great slabs of glass over our roof, and in any case, our roof isn't the right shape or facing the right way, apparently, so we'd not be able to have them even if we liked or felt it a wise move to shall out oodles of money to have them installed. Ditto we can't have loads of heat-saving insulation in our 'loft' as our 'loft' are bedrooms in a dormer house.
    I'd like to be a 'friend' but I don't do Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest or any of those social media sites. So, just think of me as a friend, even if I'm not actually one, har, har!
    Margaret P

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  27. On another note ,Love the comment about people on your site , I would be exactly the same as you cannot choose your camping customers , Hope you get your mojo back , I love reading your blog but you have so much going on in your life at the moment and when this is happening to me i must admit i stop blogging and would find it hard to understand some peoples comments , Take care , Eileen xxx

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  28. Sue, as I have said before, you have so much to share with people. Those starting out and those of us sharing memories as we slow right down. I am older than you, not by much vanity compels me to add, and I know how health issues (mine not his)can cause a change of life direction. I try to look at it as a new new adventure.
    My very best wishes to you both.

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  29. I totally agree with Wanda's comment. A lot of it comes down to human nature, some people always think 'their way' is the 'right' way. Or that they have the right to judge the lifestyle of other people.
    I've given up caring to be honest. I am a stay at home wife and mother, which is my choice, and something Bill and I discussed a lot long before Violet came along. now all I get is questions about what I'll do when Violet is in high school, or what is it I "do" all day, advice one what I 'could do' with my time, oh dear lord, it goes on. Just other people banging on about something that actually is nothing to do with them. If they paid the bills in this house, then they could have an opinion, but they don't so they don't! And I take that attitude to my blog too. If I want advice I'll ask it clearly, in question form. But my blog is my blog, it's just my prattlings, sharing what I think or do, and nothing more.
    I can see how those sorts of comments post after post would get tedious.

    :O)
    xx

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  30. Just to say; don't feel left out! Love your blog and love reading about your journey. Please keep truckin' :-)
    All the best to you and Col!

    KJ

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    Find out if you qualify now!

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